Is this the equivalent of applying for membership of a whites-only golf club and having to explain to our black friends that while we regret the fact that they’re not allowed to join, we’re waltzing in the front door anyway? Does this make us two more well-intentioned liberals unwilling to walk the walk? Signing those documents felt like slamming the door in the faces of all our gay friends, and showed up all our mutterings about equality to be mere lip service. One glimpse of the upper deck, and we were gone.
Fiona McCann on her registry-office wedding and civil partnerships, in the Irish Times.